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Fake News

Talking head but no leg to stand on. It doesn’t matter because the conspiracy fits their agenda. Their paste-face idol proclaims it to be truth and it’s enough evidence for them. Radicalization unregulated in the name of free speech and constitutional rights. Yet they all cock their brows and crinkle their noses as they demand… Continue reading Fake News

New York, New York

It’s been two yearssince I’ve gazed upon yourmiraculous metropolis aura.A pandemic-a lifetime-between us. I often wonderare you different?A silly question becauseof course you are.of course-I hope that you’re differentas inhappier,shinier,brighter. Sometimes I ignore the factthat I know the opposite is true. I imagine youdingeydarkand deep as ever. The last time we were together,it was I… Continue reading New York, New York

Love Patterns

In my youth I knew nothing of the tenderness the passion and the burning love. I knew only of the awkward, the obligatory and the butterflies in my heart that seemed to justify anything and everything as long as the boy wanted me. These were the butterflies they spoke of in the rom-coms, the young… Continue reading Love Patterns

Why Did She Stay? — Because We Are A Society of Victim-Blamers

Just because it is a part of our culture does not mean you can dodge responsibility for your contribution to it. I recently published a piece detailing how to effectively help a friend who is being abused. The issues of sexual, domestic, and intimate partner violence are highly nuanced and complex, so I recognize that there was… Continue reading Why Did She Stay? — Because We Are A Society of Victim-Blamers

The Strain

A new standard, a new life. What is there to do if not to reach for the cotton clouds feathered over the snow-covered mountains? I could tell you I’m reaching out for a way to change the world but the big picture is too much weight for my shoulders to bear. What am I really… Continue reading The Strain

No Thank You List

No thank you self-sabatoge No thank you self-victimization No thank you self-doubt No thank you mental anguish and gymnastics No thank you analysis paralysis No thank you temper tantrum tears when I don’t get my way No thank you shutting myself in and wondering why I feel lonely No thank you impossible expectations and moving… Continue reading No Thank You List

Help With Rent! Victim of Sexual Assault by Sean Michael Leydig

Sean Michael Leydig was sexually assaulted in October of 2020. He decided to press charges on his perpetrator, who, at the time, was the Vice President of the Tennessee Valley Pride organization. Instead of owning up to his crime, the perpetrator proceeded to use his platform to lie and encourage violence against Sean. This led… Continue reading Help With Rent! Victim of Sexual Assault by Sean Michael Leydig

Friends Of Abuse Victims— Here’s Your Sign To Stop Hesitating and Take Action

Intimate partner violence is unfortunately a prevalent issue in our society. That being said, people and systems still are not informed to effectively treat, help or prevent the creation of victims. As a result of this societal shortcoming, recognizing the signs of abuse can be impossibly complex for a victim let alone their friends or family members. It’s… Continue reading Friends Of Abuse Victims— Here’s Your Sign To Stop Hesitating and Take Action

Just Another Day

I’m thinking of today. Of what it should or could be. Call me ungrateful, but what it is is disappointing. Women are celebrating and wishing each other a happy day. They are taking pictures creating art, sharing with us. They are advocating writing working educating spreading awareness reading the words of other brilliant women talking… Continue reading Just Another Day

8 Must-Knows For Women Under The Age of 25

Over the years, as neurologists have found more evidence about the development of the prefrontal cortex, it has been widely debated at what age the brain is considered completely mature. The latest research suggests that our brains don’t completely finish developing until we reach the golden age of twenty-five. This data has created an interesting internet debate that’s… Continue reading 8 Must-Knows For Women Under The Age of 25

Help A R*pe Victim Fight Back By Emily Mthembu

Emily Mthembu is originally from Pretoria South Africa but has been living with her grandparents in Clifton, New Jersey for most of her life. After her father died in an accident when she was an infant, she lived with her mother for 8 years. For unspecified reasons, she was unable to stay in this environment,  so her grandparents took… Continue reading Help A R*pe Victim Fight Back By Emily Mthembu

It Means Equality

Listen to women.  Believe women. It doesn’t mean blindly it means a man’s words are equal to  a woman’s words. It means  consider  her health her wellbeing as much as you  consider  his reputation his hard work. Consider  her strength her struggle to stand  her shaken speech her “I can do this ”  “My voice… Continue reading It Means Equality

Being Sued For Defamation After Sexual Assault By Soledad Maristany

This month’s story hits a little too close to home. Soledad Maristany created a GoFundMe on behalf of her friend, Nina, a musician who was assaulted in January of 2020. In October of this year, she courageously posted her truth on ‘Not In Our Scene‘, which is a safe platform for sexual assault survivors in… Continue reading Being Sued For Defamation After Sexual Assault By Soledad Maristany

Make Time To Live

We are all constantly thinking about time and how to use it, or how to get the most from it. We measure time in productivity which is incorrect but it’s too late to change that for the world. We can possibly change it for ourselves. I was recently asked what I think the best use… Continue reading Make Time To Live

The Performer

If there’s one thing I know about people it’s that many of them will go to the most melodramatic lengths to fabricate authenticity. Nobody is without insecurity, and there is a bit of a performer in all of us. But there are many that have a permanent spotlight hovering over them like a halo. These… Continue reading The Performer

Five Songs From ‘Red’ That Deeply Influenced My Womanhood

After months of waiting, Taylor’s Version of her album Red has finally been released. Taylor Swift’s fourth studio album originally debuted in October 2012, but this year she has begun re-releasing her previous works in order to rightfully gain back ownership of her masters.  After thoroughly enjoying the release of Fearless(Taylor’s Version) in May of… Continue reading Five Songs From ‘Red’ That Deeply Influenced My Womanhood

A Survivor’s Thoughts On Reporting An Assault By Ariel

“Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.” Paul Holes Paul Holes used this phrase in his podcast today stating this is commonly said between crime investigators. Like I’ve said time and time again, especially in cases of sexual assault, it tends to come down to a he-said-she-said, which in turn leaves many cases unreported.… Continue reading A Survivor’s Thoughts On Reporting An Assault By Ariel

Despite, Not Because

They tell me I’m strong. It’s true. How familiar, the sound of misunderstanding behind the word “strong” coupled with good intentions. I say nothing or “thank you.” It’s widely believed that trauma makes victims more resilient. Trauma doesn’t make victims more anything. Trauma takes. Trauma is a monster that aims to annihilate anything in its… Continue reading Despite, Not Because

If I Had A Daughter

I’d be tempted to keep her from society. Not for myself, but to protect her soul. To shield her from the poison that exists in the sharp teeth of  the monsters who slither around  and feast on angelic beings. Imagine if there was a way to assure that she would remain unscathed, unviolated, unscarred, unburdened … Continue reading If I Had A Daughter

Another Moment

You’re playing piano in an empty coffee shop. I’m sipping on the perfect cup And consuming confectionery bliss With a sparkle of citrus But It’s difficult to chew when The muscles in my mouth Are fixed in the proudest grin. Beaming. You are my piano man. Those magnificent fingers I hold in my hand daily… Continue reading Another Moment

Re-Writing My Future: Thoughts From A Recently Diagnosed Musician By Amanda Roswick

Initially, I responded to my EDS and Pots Diagnoses with relief. Many blood tests had come back normal, so I felt validated when something was actually wrong. Today, though, I hit a huge wall of realization that, although it doesn’t mean my life will be cut short, it will impact my quality of life and… Continue reading Re-Writing My Future: Thoughts From A Recently Diagnosed Musician By Amanda Roswick

Safe Space for Kenyana R

TW: sexual assault, suicide Over the past several years, Kenyana R has been working to recover from the trauma she endured while she was in an abusive relationship. She initially moved to New York City to escape from said relationship. However, since moving there, she has suffered more unrelenting trauma and abuse. In August of… Continue reading Safe Space for Kenyana R

Becoming Unemployable: What My Resume Would Say If It Were Honest

If there’s one thing I’m sure of in this world, it is that I can form an immediate connection to any person who’s ever worked in customer service or retail. When people like us happen to cross paths and engage in conversation, we are overcome with a warm, almost nurturing sensation from the acceptance to… Continue reading Becoming Unemployable: What My Resume Would Say If It Were Honest

Eternal Gratitude: Dad

For most of my childhood, my Mom would stay home with my sisters and me. There were a few years where she also worked, and we got to spend time with our Dad in the evenings. One of my favorite…

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Stick To Your List; Know Your Red Flags

After abuse, self-advocacy is one of the most important yet challenging skills to master. Leaving an abusive relationship can feel nearly impossible. It requires a person to recognize that their boundaries are being broken while their nervous system is responding to trauma. There is usually…

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Fundraiser for Brooklyn Summers

TW: Transphobia, Sexual assault, PTSD Brooklyn Summers is a black transgender woman and survivor of sexual assault from North Hollywood, Florida. After being diagnosed with PTSD, she was admitted to a mental hospital due to continuous intense nightmares about the…

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Day Dream Carried Away

A fresh page in a new journal, I want to fill in the blanks with the thoughts you inspire. A best friend,  A romance,  A release. I’ll look at you and feel sunshine golden warmth and hellfire red sins. You ask for my words…

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Justice for Lily

TW: Sexual assault, severe trauma, pedophilia This month as I searched for a survivor’s fundraiser to feature here, I found a story that is as heinous as it is infuriating, which is why I find it incredibly important to talk about. The…

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Dear Loyalist by Amanda Roswick

You believe him. Why wouldn’t you – when he serves you the whole world on a silver platter? But be warned – Your euphoria is an illusion It will soon be your head he serves on that silver platter And when that happens, Those that once bore the weight of…

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Meaningless Words

People speak words to me as if the words alone mean something, As if I should put trust in the words themselves. Words are meaningless without action and Intentions are pointless without follow through. Rich, coming from a woman who struggles to commit to anything. Even richer, because I say…

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A Survivor’s Thoughts on Pursuing Justice

TW: Rape, sexual violence, abuse, sexism I know the right thing to do is to pursue justice. But all my life, what I’ve known to be true is that moving on requires a lot of space, time and personal growth. Pursuing justice will stunt this. Pursuing justice will take up…

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Learning To (LWord) After Abuse

Ok, so am I a part of a couple now? Can this happen for me? Is this allowed? My history of dating and relationships has been tumultuous, to say the least. After so many abusive experiences, I had gotten into the habit of only being attracted to the wrong type…

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Eternal Gratitude-Abby

As this blog has barely begun, I’d like to start it off with a few staple components that will keep me consistent in my posting. One thing that I loved to do when I was younger was write letters and cards of appreciation to people that made my life better.…

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Justice for Tayvion

If you’ve read my story on my About Me page, you’re already aware that one of the main reasons I started this blog was to spread awareness about victims of sexual violence and trauma. My aim is to use this space to amplify the voices of those who are unheard. I…

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My Body Is Badass!

The female form has been exploited, sexualized, criticized and idealized for centuries. I don’t generally like to discuss mine, or anyone else’s, because I believe we are ALL much more than just our figures. Too much of my life I’ve spent obsessing over my image. It’s been exhausting. I wish…

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I Wish

I wish women would stick together all the time.I wish it were that simple.It’s not.They don’t.Often times they have valid reasons not to.It doesn’t mean it won’t sting me.I understand.People…

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Identifying a Gaslighter

Gaslighting is the act of manipulation using psychological efforts to make a person question their own sanity and reality. The behavior ranges from toxic communication to severe emotional abuse, depending on how frequent it is. It is a tactic used by abusers, control freaks AND ordinary people. Understandably, most don’t…

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