Why Did She Stay? — Because We Are A Society of Victim-Blamers

Just because it is a part of our culture does not mean you can dodge responsibility for your contribution to it. I recently published a piece detailing how to effectively help a friend who is being abused. The issues of sexual, domestic, and intimate partner violence are highly nuanced and complex, so I recognize that there was… Continue reading Why Did She Stay? — Because We Are A Society of Victim-Blamers

I Can’t Stop Perceiving Myself Through The Male Gaze

Step one is to be aware of it. Step two — who knows? Don’t ask me why, but I recently began binge-watching the VH1 nostalgia-driven docuseries, “I Love The….” Of course, I gravitated more toward the episodes around the 90s and 2000s, but the series initially debuted in 2002 with “I Love The 80s.” Within… Continue reading I Can’t Stop Perceiving Myself Through The Male Gaze

A Survivor’s Thoughts on Pursuing Justice

TW: Rape, sexual violence, abuse, sexism I know the right thing to do is to pursue justice. But all my life, what I've known to be true is that moving on requires a lot of space, time and personal growth. Pursuing justice will stunt this. Pursuing justice will take up all the space in my… Continue reading A Survivor’s Thoughts on Pursuing Justice