Women are doing the best they can with what society has to offer them. My first encounter with abuse was in my junior year of high school — around 2013. I was sixteen. This boy and I had been together for a year. We had met right after I’d been cheated on by someone I considered to be… Continue reading Was I Abused Because I Chose The Wrong Men?
I am doing the best I can. When I fake a smile. When I fool you with false confidence. When I feign self-belief just to manifest it into the eventual truth — someday. I am doing the best I can. When I contradict myself. When I calculate and manipulate. When I'm cynical of every detail… Continue reading Human
I live in a speck of a town on the edge of a state so vast I often forget we are minuscule. I'm not quite the big fish I expected I'd be as I gawk between walls of stone masterpiece trickling with wide- not small- rivers- not ponds- or gaze at the living room window… Continue reading Calm and Center
Sometimes I contemplate how further along womankind would be if we didn't place everyone else on a pedestal before ourselves like men do. Men prioritize and pedastalize themselves. They would never give up their hopes and dreams to appease others. They go out and get what they want and everything else in their lives must… Continue reading Make The Decision To End The Cycle
It's been two yearssince I've gazed upon yourmiraculous metropolis aura.A pandemic-a lifetime-between us.I often wonderare you different?A silly question becauseof course you are.of course-I hope that you're differentas inhappier,shinier,brighter. Sometimes I ignore the factthat I know the opposite is true.I imagine youdingeydarkand deep as ever.The last time we were together,it was I who was suffering.I… Continue reading New York, New York
In my youth I knew nothing of the tenderness the passion and the burning love. I knew only of the awkward, the obligatory and the butterflies in my heart that seemed to justify anything and everything as long as the boy wanted me. These were the butterflies they spoke of in the rom-coms, the young… Continue reading Love Patterns
Just because it is a part of our culture does not mean you can dodge responsibility for your contribution to it. I recently published a piece detailing how to effectively help a friend who is being abused. The issues of sexual, domestic, and intimate partner violence are highly nuanced and complex, so I recognize that there was… Continue reading Why Did She Stay? — Because We Are A Society of Victim-Blamers
Love is not isolation. Love is not hidden. You deserve warmth and acceptance and love out loud between two equals- two teammates. The narcissist is incapable of offering you what you deserve. But he makes you believe he's given you the whole world and lassoed the moon and sacrificed everything and breathed air into your… Continue reading An Open Letter To The Narcissist’s Supply
I close my eyes and drift away to a safe place. a secure space where authenticity flowers and flourishes while Shame, insecurity, and performance are thin on the ground. I am beautiful. Natural and naked, I skip in the grass and I sore through the clouds and I soak up the sunshine. I don't worry… Continue reading What Do Your Dreams Tell You?
Intimate partner violence is unfortunately a prevalent issue in our society. That being said, people and systems still are not informed to effectively treat, help or prevent the creation of victims. As a result of this societal shortcoming, recognizing the signs of abuse can be impossibly complex for a victim let alone their friends or family members. It’s… Continue reading Friends Of Abuse Victims— Here’s Your Sign To Stop Hesitating and Take Action