Being Sued For Defamation After Sexual Assault By Soledad Maristany

This month's story hits a little too close to home. Soledad Maristany created a GoFundMe on behalf of her friend, Nina, a musician who was assaulted in January of 2020. In October of this year, she courageously posted her truth on ‘Not In Our Scene', which is a safe platform for sexual assault survivors in… Continue reading Being Sued For Defamation After Sexual Assault By Soledad Maristany

Make Time To Live

We are all constantly thinking about time and how to use it, or how to get the most from it. We measure time in productivity which is incorrect but it's too late to change that for the world. We can possibly change it for ourselves. I was recently asked what I think the best use… Continue reading Make Time To Live

The Performer

If there's one thing I know about people it's that many of them will go to the most melodramatic lengths to fabricate authenticity. Nobody is without insecurity, and there is a bit of a performer in all of us. But there are many that have a permanent spotlight hovering over them like a halo. These… Continue reading The Performer

November Update: An Adventurous Anniversary

On the morning of our anniversary, Eric and I were awoken by the blood-curdling squeal of a poor little mouse. Why was he squealing? Because our maintenance man placed glue traps in our home which are the most horrific contraptions I’ve ever heard of. Seriously I can’t believe these things are legal!! I started to… Continue reading November Update: An Adventurous Anniversary

Five Songs From ‘Red’ That Deeply Influenced My Womanhood

After months of waiting, Taylor’s Version of her album Red has finally been released. Taylor Swift’s fourth studio album originally debuted in October 2012, but this year she has begun re-releasing her previous works in order to rightfully gain back ownership of her masters.  After thoroughly enjoying the release of Fearless(Taylor’s Version) in May of… Continue reading Five Songs From ‘Red’ That Deeply Influenced My Womanhood

A Survivor’s Thoughts On Reporting An Assault By Ariel

“Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.”Paul Holes Paul Holes used this phrase in his podcast today stating this is commonly said between crime investigators. Like I’ve said time and time again, especially in cases of sexual assault, it tends to come down to a he-said-she-said, which in turn leaves many cases unreported. Often… Continue reading A Survivor’s Thoughts On Reporting An Assault By Ariel

Despite, Not Because

They tell me I'm strong. It's true. How familiar, the sound of misunderstanding behind the word "strong" coupled with good intentions. I say nothing or "thank you." It’s widely believed that trauma makes victims more resilient. Trauma doesn't make victims more anything. Trauma takes. Trauma is a monster that aims to annihilate anything in its… Continue reading Despite, Not Because

If I Had A Daughter

I'd be tempted to keep her from society. Not for myself, but to protect her soul. To shield her from the poison that exists in the sharp teeth of  the monsters who slither around  and feast on angelic beings. Imagine if there was a way to assure that she would remain unscathed, unviolated, unscarred, unburdened … Continue reading If I Had A Daughter

Roxane Gay Could Have Read My Essay

The greatly anticipated results of the Medium Writers Challenge were finally announced last week, and they seemed to stir quite a bit of controversy. The drama of it all has been relatively entertaining.  Unfortunately, I was not the finalist nor one of the honorable mentions. Although I didn’t expect to win, I couldn’t help the… Continue reading Roxane Gay Could Have Read My Essay